Recipe # 6: Hi Haters! Bye Haters!

You ever meet someone that no matter what you tell them is good in your life, they have a similar story of their life that didn't go well and they insist that somehow your situation will also fail? I know I have. And it is the worst thing to hear, "You're working there? Yeah, well, I worked there and got fired," as if that has anything to do with you. I can't stand these kinds of people, and I always seem to meet them. They seem most genuine, and even befriend you, but once you tell them something about yourself that they don't agree with, they immediately start into something about themselves that happened to them like you and predict that you too, will fail. Why do that? Why is it that their experience stands as the precedent for all future situations? It's really wack. We should be happy for each other when we succeed, especially if the situations are the same or similar. I became acquainted with a woman that because her move-in-before-marriage relationship ended bitterly, that mine wouldn't. I'm sorry, who made you the sayer of all things? At first, I took the advice as a way of caution, but in retrospect, when she continued to negatively approach other things in my life, I could see that she is bitter. And because she has bitterness, she could not accept the fact that although it happened one way for her, that it could be different for someone else. This woman, as successful and smart she is, could not embrace the fact that although people may take different paths, a lot of times we end up in the same place. So before we judge others, I think it is so important that we get over our own shit before we play Oprah to someone else. It's all good to share personal stories; it's kinda what we as woman tend to do. But we should be careful of how we speak to others. And we should try not to hate.

Live. Laugh. Love.

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