Recipe # 3: Once a cheater, always a cheater

There is the saying that once a man cheats, he will cheat again and again. I'm not sure how true this is. Not to say that this does not happen, but does this apply to all men? To all cheaters? I don't think so. All people are able to change, even if only for the moment. But some people really only cheat once. It all depends on the circumstances, the time in which it happened, and the reason for the cheating. Now. I'll be the first to say that no one should cheat on the person that they are with. If you come to a point that you are thinking of stepping out on your significant other, then you need to reconsider being in a long term, committed relationship. But I do believe that everyone deserves a chance to prove who they really are. If the realtionship is not going in a direction that you want, a person that is afraid of confronting that reality will cheat. And then there are the people that cheat because they feel that the more women (or men) they sleep with, then they have won whatever game they were playing. And this applies to women, too. What is with that double standard that when a woman cheats, it's usually because her man did something to make her cheat. When a man cheats, it is usually because he's an ass and just wanted to do something stupid, and to hurt the girl. Why can't it be the other way around? I've known plenty of guys that have ahd their girls cheat on them, and when you find out why the girl cheated, it had nothing to do with the man.

Yet, if you give a person a chance to show who they are, to prove that they really messed up and want to change, then chances are they can do better. Because sometimes it's not always about change, but the choice that was made when the mistake was made. A person can make one mistake and never make it again. And I think that when a woman decides to stay with her man (or a man decides to stay with a woman) after they cheated, if the person was genuinely sorry and shows that they can be trusted again, then why not give them a chance to do things right. No one is perfect, and in no way am I condoning the wrong things that people do in relationships, but I do think that people should support those that make that choice to support a loved one when they mess up. However,if the cheater is in no way truly sorry for what they did and continue to do the mess, then yeah, once a cheater, always a cheater.

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