Recipe #1: Nothing Wrong with Being Single

I was inspired to wirte this note in response to a friend's note, "What's Wrong with Being Single?" Some people seem to think that being a single woman is like a disease. They feel sorry for you, as if you've failed at the figuring out the biggest mystery in Life. "Oh, you'll finf the righgt someone," as if you are desperately seeking the right someone. Here's what I siad in response:

"...there is nothing wrong with being single, ladies and gentlemen, absolutely nothing. when I was single, after getting over the failed relationship, i would be thankful that God gave me the strength to get through it and not beat myself up over it too much, and in retrospect i would be happy that i survived the whole experience because i learned so much about myself in the process. and that is why being single can be a good thing. you learn ur strengths, weaknessess, joys and hurts, things that u like to do or not, what you expect from yourself and what you want for yourself, and how you allow others to treat you. u basically become or start along a path that helps you become complete in yourself. that way, when you do get into a relationship you are comfortable enough in yourself to know what you want and to not settle for anything less. and in essence you being to attract potential partners that are doing the same thing. so you end up with someone on the same page, or at least seriously getting there. "

"im in a relationship right now, and when we had our hard times, when we were single and apart, it was then that we learned most about what we actually wanted in life. we learned about ourselves and where we wanted life to lead us, as individuals, not as a couple. upon reuniting as friends, we saw that we still wanted the same things and that settling for other partners that only did part of the job made absolutely no sense. they werent on the same page so we decided not to settle with others and make our way with each other. relationship-wise, it was the best decision we made with each other. we have honesty with each other about who we are as individuals and as a couple, and because of that we are able to deal with our disagreements as mature adults and make things work the way we both want them to. i can say with much sureity that we would not have been here, had not learned the things we learned, had we not been single."

"so, embrace youe singlehood as it is, enjoy being with yourself and build a relationship with yourself. it is the best one you will ever and always have."

Live. Laugh. Love.

din-din.