Recipe # 6: Hi Haters! Bye Haters!

You ever meet someone that no matter what you tell them is good in your life, they have a similar story of their life that didn't go well and they insist that somehow your situation will also fail? I know I have. And it is the worst thing to hear, "You're working there? Yeah, well, I worked there and got fired," as if that has anything to do with you. I can't stand these kinds of people, and I always seem to meet them. They seem most genuine, and even befriend you, but once you tell them something about yourself that they don't agree with, they immediately start into something about themselves that happened to them like you and predict that you too, will fail. Why do that? Why is it that their experience stands as the precedent for all future situations? It's really wack. We should be happy for each other when we succeed, especially if the situations are the same or similar. I became acquainted with a woman that because her move-in-before-marriage relationship ended bitterly, that mine wouldn't. I'm sorry, who made you the sayer of all things? At first, I took the advice as a way of caution, but in retrospect, when she continued to negatively approach other things in my life, I could see that she is bitter. And because she has bitterness, she could not accept the fact that although it happened one way for her, that it could be different for someone else. This woman, as successful and smart she is, could not embrace the fact that although people may take different paths, a lot of times we end up in the same place. So before we judge others, I think it is so important that we get over our own shit before we play Oprah to someone else. It's all good to share personal stories; it's kinda what we as woman tend to do. But we should be careful of how we speak to others. And we should try not to hate.

Live. Laugh. Love.

din-din

Recipe # 5: Pussy does not rule real men!

Ladies, I have encountered too many females that think that by giving up good pussy to their man that this is what will make the man stay faithful, and if anything should happen to cause them to break up, that their good pussy will bring the man running back to them, no matter what. This is not true! It takes more than good sex to hold a man, and I know that the real women out there know this already. I'm posting this because after what I've encountered in the past few years,I think that this needs to be said. You can't hook up with a man, give him good pussy before the start of the relationship, start a relationship, the relationship ends, and you give good pussy to make him stay. IT NEVER HAPPENS! This man will stick around on and off just for a good slam now and then, but in the meantime, he's actually looking for a good woman to be with. This good woman will be able to not only give him good food, conversation, support, friendship, but she will also give him good Loving. Yes, Loving, not 'good pussy'. She will be able to fulfill all his needs of both his heads, the one in between his shoulders and in between his legs. So to those girls out there think it's cool to threaten another person's relationship by telling a woman that she could have her man if she wanted to, a real man is not ruled by the pussy!

Recipe #4: Love isn't finding a perfect person. It's seeing an imperfect person perfectly.

I saw this quote on a friend's page and it really made me rememebr what my bf said to me a long time ago: "you're not perfect, but you're perfect for me." I came to realize how right he was after i grew to love my self more as i grew older. and i put to words how i feel about my bf, how I've always felt about him, about us. that we aren't perfect ppl. we do things that annoy each other, piss each other off and all that stuff, but at the end of the day, it's the imperfect things that make us who we are. they make us human. and we love each other for that, for all that we are, the good and the bad. all this talk about finding someone to complete you, and fill a void is BS. you need to love yourself completely without void first. only then will you be with someone that will really love you. only then will it all make sense. because if you don't love yourself, if you are always looking for someone to fill that void for you, it will never be filled and you will always be looking.

Recipe # 3: Once a cheater, always a cheater

There is the saying that once a man cheats, he will cheat again and again. I'm not sure how true this is. Not to say that this does not happen, but does this apply to all men? To all cheaters? I don't think so. All people are able to change, even if only for the moment. But some people really only cheat once. It all depends on the circumstances, the time in which it happened, and the reason for the cheating. Now. I'll be the first to say that no one should cheat on the person that they are with. If you come to a point that you are thinking of stepping out on your significant other, then you need to reconsider being in a long term, committed relationship. But I do believe that everyone deserves a chance to prove who they really are. If the realtionship is not going in a direction that you want, a person that is afraid of confronting that reality will cheat. And then there are the people that cheat because they feel that the more women (or men) they sleep with, then they have won whatever game they were playing. And this applies to women, too. What is with that double standard that when a woman cheats, it's usually because her man did something to make her cheat. When a man cheats, it is usually because he's an ass and just wanted to do something stupid, and to hurt the girl. Why can't it be the other way around? I've known plenty of guys that have ahd their girls cheat on them, and when you find out why the girl cheated, it had nothing to do with the man.

Yet, if you give a person a chance to show who they are, to prove that they really messed up and want to change, then chances are they can do better. Because sometimes it's not always about change, but the choice that was made when the mistake was made. A person can make one mistake and never make it again. And I think that when a woman decides to stay with her man (or a man decides to stay with a woman) after they cheated, if the person was genuinely sorry and shows that they can be trusted again, then why not give them a chance to do things right. No one is perfect, and in no way am I condoning the wrong things that people do in relationships, but I do think that people should support those that make that choice to support a loved one when they mess up. However,if the cheater is in no way truly sorry for what they did and continue to do the mess, then yeah, once a cheater, always a cheater.

Live. Laugh. Love.

din-din

Recipe # 2: Easily Stuffed Peppers

Yes, this is an actual recipe and it tastes great! It's easy to make and once you learn how to do it, it'll become one of your Friday night favorites.

Ingredients:
-1/2 a pack of ground beef (preferrably lean)
-2 green peppers, 2 red peppers, tops cut off and cored
-1 tbsp of vegetable oil
-1 tomato, diced
-1/2 white onion, slcied
-1 green onion diced
-1 1/2 tbsp of seaoned salt
-1 tbsp of soy sauce
-2 tbsps of Worcestershire sauce
-2/3 cups of shredded cheddar cheese

Instructions:
1. Pre-heat oven to 350 celcius.

2. Boil a pot of water and add the green and red peppers. Boil for 2-5mins and remove from water. Set aside on ungreased oven pan.

3. Season the ground beef with the seasoned salt, soy sauce, and Worcestershire sauce. Heat the oil and add green onion, white onion; sautee them until soft. Add the seasoned ground beef and cook until brown. On medium heat, add the tomatoes to the ground beef, stir in. Turn heat down to low and simmer beef.

4. Stuff the pepppers 2/3 full with the ground beef mixture. Place into the oven for 5mins. Remove from oven and fill the rest of the peppers with the shredded cheese. Bake until cheese melts. Remove from oven.

5. Let cool for 5mins before serving. Mashed potatoes are an excellent side dish with this recipe. Bon appetite!

Recipe #1: Nothing Wrong with Being Single

I was inspired to wirte this note in response to a friend's note, "What's Wrong with Being Single?" Some people seem to think that being a single woman is like a disease. They feel sorry for you, as if you've failed at the figuring out the biggest mystery in Life. "Oh, you'll finf the righgt someone," as if you are desperately seeking the right someone. Here's what I siad in response:

"...there is nothing wrong with being single, ladies and gentlemen, absolutely nothing. when I was single, after getting over the failed relationship, i would be thankful that God gave me the strength to get through it and not beat myself up over it too much, and in retrospect i would be happy that i survived the whole experience because i learned so much about myself in the process. and that is why being single can be a good thing. you learn ur strengths, weaknessess, joys and hurts, things that u like to do or not, what you expect from yourself and what you want for yourself, and how you allow others to treat you. u basically become or start along a path that helps you become complete in yourself. that way, when you do get into a relationship you are comfortable enough in yourself to know what you want and to not settle for anything less. and in essence you being to attract potential partners that are doing the same thing. so you end up with someone on the same page, or at least seriously getting there. "

"im in a relationship right now, and when we had our hard times, when we were single and apart, it was then that we learned most about what we actually wanted in life. we learned about ourselves and where we wanted life to lead us, as individuals, not as a couple. upon reuniting as friends, we saw that we still wanted the same things and that settling for other partners that only did part of the job made absolutely no sense. they werent on the same page so we decided not to settle with others and make our way with each other. relationship-wise, it was the best decision we made with each other. we have honesty with each other about who we are as individuals and as a couple, and because of that we are able to deal with our disagreements as mature adults and make things work the way we both want them to. i can say with much sureity that we would not have been here, had not learned the things we learned, had we not been single."

"so, embrace youe singlehood as it is, enjoy being with yourself and build a relationship with yourself. it is the best one you will ever and always have."

Live. Laugh. Love.

din-din.