If you and your partner have problems now, getting married will not make those problems go away. If you can barely hold down a proper conversation or communication, if he/she doesn't like the way you dress or the places you go to have fun or chill with your friends, or he/she is controlling or overbearing, marrying the person is not going to make any of these things stop. it will probably make things worse because now you are married.this is a mistake alot of couples make, and it's a shame. deal with the things you don't like now so that should you decide to marry later, you know what you are getting into and know how you want to make things work. With this in mind, and the two of you want to make things work and stay committed for the rest of your lives, then both of you need to put in the work and make a change for the better - before the wedding. and both of you need to be willing to make the changes necessary to make things last. if the person is reluctant, then that is the time you ask yourself, is this really worth it? do i want to live the rest of my life with a woman/man that behaves and thinks certain ways that make my life miserable and complicated? in all, you should really know the person you are with. take the time to get know their quirks, irks, peeves, pleasures, and dislikes. and they should do the same for you. if you know for yourself that you can accept these things about this person and have ways/strategies to deal with the things you don't like, then by all means - get married, if that is the step you both want to take with each other. if not, then make the choice to not settle for for something that will never make you happy. just a thought.
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About Me
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- I felt like creating a page that expresses who I am and what I think about current issues, as well as give others a spot to do the same. So here is a peek into my Cook Book. Enjoy!
Wednesday, July 22, 2009
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